Considering Your Vows
15 February 2010
When you’re planning your wedding, it’s easy to get caught up in the big things like the dress, the cake, the venue, but there comes a point where you you have to sit down and consider why you’re actually getting married. This point for me came when H2B and I began writing our vows.
Wedding vows are the promise the bride and groom make to love and support each other for the rest of their lives and while traditional wording is still popular, an increasing number of couples are choosing to write their own vows to personalise their ceremony.
Whether you choose a civil or religious ceremony, there is usually room for you to inject some romance into your ceremony. Your celebrant will advise you of the legal requirements of the marriage ceremony and should be able to provide suggestions and examples for you to work from.
If you’re stuck for inspiration, find it in your favourite songs, poetry and literature and don’t think of your vows in isolation from the rest of the ceremony, but consider how you can personalise the whole ceremony. Remember, however, that although your vows are personal, they won’t be delivered in private. Take your audience into consideration, and don’t make them too long or too intimate. Be sincere. Make sure you are writing and speaking from the heart.
If you’re nervous, talk to your celebrant. They can help you feel at ease, and even insert a bailout clause to cut the ceremony short if you’re not feeling up to it. Practice. If you can’t memorise the speech or think you’ll be nervous on the day, consider having your celebrant say the vows for you to repeat or writing notes on a card. Even if you do memorise them, keep a card on hand just in case and speak slowly and clearly. Your guests need to hear what you’re saying.
Wedding vows are the promise the bride and groom make to love and support each other for the rest of their lives and while traditional wording is still popular, an increasing number of couples are choosing to write their own vows to personalise their ceremony.
Whether you choose a civil or religious ceremony, there is usually room for you to inject some romance into your ceremony. Your celebrant will advise you of the legal requirements of the marriage ceremony and should be able to provide suggestions and examples for you to work from.
If you’re stuck for inspiration, find it in your favourite songs, poetry and literature and don’t think of your vows in isolation from the rest of the ceremony, but consider how you can personalise the whole ceremony. Remember, however, that although your vows are personal, they won’t be delivered in private. Take your audience into consideration, and don’t make them too long or too intimate. Be sincere. Make sure you are writing and speaking from the heart.
If you’re nervous, talk to your celebrant. They can help you feel at ease, and even insert a bailout clause to cut the ceremony short if you’re not feeling up to it. Practice. If you can’t memorise the speech or think you’ll be nervous on the day, consider having your celebrant say the vows for you to repeat or writing notes on a card. Even if you do memorise them, keep a card on hand just in case and speak slowly and clearly. Your guests need to hear what you’re saying.
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